2. You are magnetic. You have the ability to draw people by simply being present with them.
3. You listen carefully. This is impressive, especially because I talk a lot. But I caught on pretty early that you listen intently and map things together quickly. You become intuitive with more information. It's appreciated, people are not alone in a moment when they are communicating with you. That includes people I would have tuned out by now. YEW KNOW who I'm talking about.4. You think fast. I can listen to you think aloud for hours. I have. It's fun, not at all exhausting.
5. You are kind. Anyone can be nice. People are nice to get what they want. Kind people have an extra something in their souls. In the experiences you've shared with me, that's stood out to me almost every time.6. You are honest with yourself. You are the best person I've ever met because of this one fact. Being honest is so incredibly difficult for people to do. Only the most extraordinary people do this regularly, and I count you among them.
7. You are protective of your loved ones. I've experienced this first-hand as a friend. In the past, it may have felt thankless, protecting others. But you know how to do it, and it's counted. It counts. I love that. I think it makes people feel safe with you in ways they can't find safety elsewhere. I intend to show up for you the same way. I hope you feel protected.8. You are charismatic. This is a no-brainer, I don't really need to explain this. You know how to do yewwwww. And I love it. You know I do.
9. You provide evidence of good character. People can say all of the right things and be entirely full of sh-t, but you've challenged yourself to facing radical transparency head-on. I admire this so much. I want you to know I am meeting you there as well. We talk about "spaces" all of the time, because it's so important. Know that I am enthusiastically standing radical transparency with you. 10. You’re a learner. 11. Your pride is guided. There are some things you're simply not going to do, but it has nothing to do with pride. You don't hold back what needs to be said, what you think, feel, and want. This is refreshing and makes it so easy to understand you.12. You share. Your personal stories are captivating. And if we can get meta about it, you're sharing in the stories too. Space, time, pain, love, support. All of the traits that make you a great friend.
13. You are compassionate. Do you know that you're a big softy? It's a privilege to know this side of you.14. You’re hilarious. If you've noticed my cheekbones are more pronounced lately, it's your fault. I laugh so much with you, my cheeks hurt. It's because you are so animated and your sense of humor is *chef's kiss*.
15. Your memory is insane. How are you able to remember so much? You're like an elephant, minus the grudge.16. You’re handsome. I mean, come on. I'm not superficial but you're fucking fine.
17. You’re tall. This is hot. I don't know what else to say about it. It's curious to me, it isn't anything you did; you were just blessed with it. But on top of everything else, you're uncompromisingly good looking, brilliant AND tall?18. You’re intellectually superior. Remember that day we were saying nerdy things to each other and you were swooning? I literally thought I was the only nerd around here. In all seriousness, I envision your mind-map, how you quickly arrive to thoughts, ideas, jokes, decisions, and I'm fascinated.
19. You’re thoughtful. I think it's because you thrive when it comes to attention to detail.20. You have beautiful hands. Isn't funny that I saw your hands in my dreams before I saw your face, and all I could think was how beautiful they are? And the fact that you don't get manicures - I just don't believe it. I want to investigate further.
21. You make the space you have with people important. That is, your relationships are meaningful to you and very intentional. Another sign of excellence.22. You show up for your friends, even if it’s ridiculous. It makes for a good story. You're a real friend.
23. You’re an empath, even though that experience comes with coveted access. You tend to look for the human in the human. And if you care about them, you let them know that you can see them, and it's totally okay.24. You have the best roasts. Maybe I'm jacked up for this, but I love this about you. You've used your powers for good. I mean who better to cheer me up about "TYLER"? Tuh.
25. You look really cute in your work clothes. And then you act like it's nothing. And I believe that. Which makes me swoon even more.26. You are intellectually stimulating. We've had insanely good talks that were transformative and challenging.
27. You are emotionally stimulating. Holy shit. That's all I can say here.28. You make me horny. And that’s really hard to do. No pun inte---...
29. You speak poetically. When you're expressing yourself, I am either in awe or melting like brown butter. And you just do it. You're a natural. It blows me away. And it makes me want to jump through the phone.30. You write beautifully. See number 29. You are incredible.
31. Your face lights up when you interact with Tegan. This is such a new thing for me to experience - witnessing someone else get excited about my little one. The warm and fuzzies are addictive to me. I love watching the two of you interact.32. Your storytelling ability is completely unmatched. The first time you told me the story of Darth Vader was the first time I understood why Star Wars so great, and it was so intriguing I was holding back tears.
33. You sing constantly, but not in that obnoxious way that’s like, “Hey, I can sing.” You sing like, “This is my jam, and I don’t care, sing it with me.”34. You know the Billy Jean dance. Anyone who cares enough to study the icon and keep him alive is always going to be a cut above the rest to me.
35. You play the piano. I can watch and listen to you play all day. I would like to.36. You’re a romantic. Phew. Our talks reveal it.
37. You’re kind to animals. I'm never going to a rodeo again because of what you discussed with me about it. And you're a ham. I have the ultimate "coffee-meets-bagel dating profile" pic of you with a dog. That's curling all the way over for me, and I'm sure every other woman with sense. Also, we know you won't go on a dating site. We know.38. You’re unapologetically fake woke. I still laugh at you admitting this, but your honesty is refreshing and relatable.
39. You are patient.40. You are an inspiration.
41. You do hard things. This can only be done by extraordinary people and it's you again, showing up as the giant you are, scared as f*ck, doing it anyway.42. You love musicals.
43. You understand jazz. And you LIKE IT. Specifically piano jazz.44. You know so much about hip hop.
45. You make everything funny. Specifically, things that are not at all supposed to be funny. This is very high on my list. I knew I loved you when we laughed about something super inappropriate. It would have been awkward or sad, but we ended up a laughing without missing a beat, and moving on.46. You know good and g_ddamn well we didn’t go to the moon.
47. You are unabashedly inquisitive.48. You know you’re that guy. I love your confidence.
49. You speak like a Vulcan. "Query..."50. You cry. I didn't realize how much that would strike me as something a strong, self-assured man could do - outside of consequence, or fear. You have them for joy and sorrow too. So many people have nothing left for those things.
51. You are a contingency planner. Overthinking does not exist.52. The Lady in My Life is your favorite Michael Jackson song, which is one of the most underrated songs in his catalog and by far one of the best.
53. You’re walking jukebox. I'm not winning karaoke against you. But I volunteer to be the Tammi to your Marvin.54. Your poker face is unmatched.
55. You’re competitive. While I hear it’s pretty ridiculous, I like that energy. Plus, when I start talking my shit, you’re going to respect it.56. Your enlightenment doesn’t jade you.
57. You are open-minded.58. You’re tenacious about knowing yourself and possessing the bravery to constantly seek self-improvement.
59. You see in others what they may overlook in themselves. You find the gems.60. You are always down for a good ki-ki.
61. You are principled.62. Your movie taste is impeccable. It also reveals a lot about who you are, what matters to you, what moves you. I love what I'm discovering so far.
63. So is your taste in music. Your deeply varied and expansive palate for music is extremely attractive. I knew you were amazing when you listed Songs in the Key of Life in your top five.64. Your wookie is impressive. Can you believe we did that? So early on?
65. You are not at all shy about being feminist. But you know, not the white kind.66. You stan black women.
67. You literally didn’t know what a Hotep is, and I’m not only tickled but in awe of this.68. You still possess a quiet innocence. It's the reason I can't see your eyes when you laugh. Because it isn't BS. You're laughing from your heart. It's beautiful.
69. You’re a huge advocate for tomorrows. After everything you’ve been through, seen people you love go through, you are able to focus on the beautiful things that are possible. It doesn’t shake your core, despite the attempts from time to time. Your optimism wins out because your faith in unlimited possibilities excite you. It makes me excited too, and I am compelled to cheer you on.70. It is in your heart to become a dad. You can't even fake it. It's sweet.
71. You make my baby smile. A lot of people are taken by your little koala, but she doesn't always take to them. She's got good taste in people, what can I say?72. You adore Emma Stone as much as I do.
73. You look incredible in blue! And white. And purple. But that royal blue against your deep melanated skin puts a huge smile on my face. I crush a little harder when you're in your favorite color.74. You get justifiably hype every time The Power Rangers theme song comes on and you literally rock out. It is top tier cute.
75. You have this gift of uplifting people without piling on platitudes.76. You are generous.
77. You're a Cali-vibe. From music to persona. I wouldn't limit you to that though. I started off by identifying you as an alien. Remember? From the same planet as me. Familiar in all of the ways that it matter, like home.78. You give sound, actionable, no-bullshit advice.
79. Your affection is boundless.80. You’re a teacher. In every way. Through demonstration, through your job, in the experiences you create with people who are in your life. People come away from an experience with you having learned something valuable for safekeeping. That’s powerful and impactful.
81. You are consistent.82. You are authentic.
83. You quietly do things for people you love without seeking praise.84. You are extremely powerful and you’re not an asshole about it.
85. You are comfortable with your role as an impactful human being; you don’t carry it as if it’s a burdensome responsibility.86. You are spontaneous. But not in a scary-stress-me-out way. We are pretty much on the same page here.
87. Your laugh is infectious.88. Your eyes dance when you’re excited.
89. You kiss your phone screen in public. Without shame.90. Honestly how fucking cute is it that you drink hot chocolate in the morning?
91. You’re a contingency planner.92. You know how to skate, and the reason you learned is the most adorable reason in the world. It also speaks to the kind of heart you have.
93. So in addition to being impactful, you're coachable. The fact that you have a personal board of directors tells me you take yourself seriously.94. You’ve transcended the need to conform by doing what you love in your thirties. A lot of people never get there, but you have, and it's fun witness your experience in sobering, illuminating, hilarious ways.
95. You are comfortable with nuance and complexity. Even though you have solid set of principles you’ve outline for yourself, very little makes you uncomfortable.96. You can’t be offended. This makes flirting with you a lot more fun, because I think you like it when I give you a bit of a hard time.
97. You’re kind of shy, which only the privileged can know. And you blush a lot. When you do, you radiate sincere joy. It’s infectious.98. Your ability to read people is your super power, but you use it for good. If someone is uncomfortable, you immediately shift conversation to relieve them of what anxiety they may feel. It’s your way of deploying empathy in awkward situations.
99. You're a sapio-sexual. This will never NOT be hot.100. The fact that you simply cannot name the same best rapper to ever do it, two days in a row, or worse, within a matter of six hours, tells me how much you genuinely love to experience life from the eyes of others. You're spirited about everything.